As in the Big O. Orgasm.
I will now wait as those readers, to whom this is a taboo subject, back hurriedly away. It’s a pity because some of the ones leaving are the ones that could benefit from this the most.
Ok, for those of you still left; this is directed at people in, well maybe not committed relationships, but ones that aren’t grab-anyone-still-at-the-bar-because-you-don’t-want-to-be-alone-wake-up-the-next-morning-hating-yourself land. I’m talking about relationships where there is affection and mutual admiration if not love.
Now there are few gifts you can give your partner as precious as the knowledge they have satisfied you sexually. “Was it good for you?” isn’t an idle question or a way to boost their ego (well ok maybe it is but not in the way you might think) it’s a sincere inquiry as to whether they had pleased you.
Let that sink in a moment.
They want to know if they had pleased….you. Yes, you. They want you to have enjoyed it, in part because it speaks well of their skill, but also because they want you to have had memorable time. They want to know you felt as good about the experience as they did so you both have that connection. And maybe you’ll want to do it again sometime.
In order to have that memorable orgasm, though, you have to be willing to let go of inhibitions, fear, worry about bills, did you put the food away and whether or not the cat has water.
You have to verbalize your wants and desires and above all you have to be flexible…and I’m not talking about being able to lick the back of your knee.
The flexibility I’m speaking of is a willingness to experiment. To try new things or interesting twists on old ones.
You’re probably wondering where I’m coming from with this one. I’ve known a couple women who, despite being married many many years, have never had an orgasm. Yes, they belong to another generation but I cannot help feeling sad for them. To never know that rush and release? To never feel the dizzying heights that can be achieved with a willing partner? Or even worse, to have over and over again nearly reached it and not gone over.
Talk about being in a hell of your own making.
So, do yourselves a favor…and relax. And enjoy the O.