E is for Elopement

Love and marriage
Love and marriage
go together like a horse and carriage

Ah, love.

For those of you that may be confused about the differences between a wedding and an elopement I’m offering this quick primer.

If you run away without telling anyone and get married. Then you’ve eloped.

If you set a date (even if it’s next week), invite people, and have a wee cake or two, then it’s a wedding.

Take my husband and I, we decided to get married, contacted a Justice of the Peace, and invited people to his parent’s backyard (they offered) the following weekend for the ceremony. We had a wedding.

My cousin walked into a family gathering one day with her boyfriend and announced “James and I got married yesterday!” They eloped because no one knew about it beforehand.

To recap:

You give notice and invite people: It’s a wedding

You run off to the Justice of the Peace (or other officiating official) without breathing a word: It’s an elopement.

Also, if you’ve gotten a family friend to officiate for you then you probably should make sure they’re registered with your state (if you’re in the States, international rates may vary). Even if they’re ordained, you’re not legally married if they’re not.

6 thoughts on “E is for Elopement”

  1. Well, that’s very enlightening.Somehow, you make the act seem disrespectful instead of spontaneous. I’m glad you didn’t elope. I guess the in-laws were pleased too.

    1. Ahh, my apologies. That was NOT my intention. There’s nothing wrong with a good old fashioned elopement. 🙂

  2. Well I’m glad you cleared that up, mine was officially a wedding, very modest, reception at sister-in-law’s, much beer consumed, fun had by all. 8^D

    1. You’d be surprised at how many people don’t understand the difference. They think that any spur-of-the-moment wedding qualifies as an elopement. Sad really. 🙂

    1. Pretty much. Although it could be an impulse rather than a secret, especially if you’re in Vegas. 🙂

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